As I read the theme for March, 'What is giving you life right now that you are saying yes to' or 'What is draining you that you are saying no to', I started thinking maybe I should write about my quiet time or discipleship or the time I spend with my family or the coffee date I try to have with my girl friends. I kept going down my list of topics thinking no, no, no, not any of those. And don't get me wrong, all that I had on my list was good and valid topics that have been life-giving or draining, but I decided to write about my work instead.
For the last 10 years of my life, I have predominantly been a stay-at-home mom. Before that, I was working with Commercial Sex Workers in Chennai, rescuing them from their trade and teaching them livelihood skills. But with all our transitions and travels, I put away my desire to go out and work. For those of you who know me, you know that I am extremely extroverted. So for a personality type like me to sit cooped up in the house was exhausting!
When we moved to Delhi, I volunteered with our church and helped out a little with their social outreach project but just when I was beginning to get adjusted to that routine, God moved us out of our comfort zone to yet another assignment. And so I took a break from work again. Added to that we were having our third child and moving our older two to a new school, so I thought it would be best if I stayed home. And I also thought, maybe I'm just meant to be a stay-at-home mom. But the desire to go out and work never left, never dwindled, never died.
Since this desire to work never found a form of fulfilment, it ended up in useless arguments with my husband about how he has a life and I just stay at home all day. After pointless argument, after pointless argument, on this subject for nearly six months he asked me one day, "When have I ever said no to work?" That's whne it struck me that I had been the one giving myself excuses.
So when the opportunity presented itself I sheepishly volunteered to go back to work. For me, that has been life-giving; the fact that my husband sacrifices and stays home with the kids while I go out and work is life-giving; the fact that I get to do my dream job of working at a livelihood project for people living with HIV/AIDS and teaching them crochet is life-giving. Above all, when I teach these women to trust Jesus and to have hope in him despite their hopeless situation -- that is life-giving.
And I am so glad the husband said 'yes' to the wife!
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This is such a sweet post !! 🙂 Blessed to read this.